I have been in relationships with nice guys, but I have always run away. There was one guy in particular that wanted to marry me. He would talk about things like what our lives would be like in the future and I would too. I just wasn’t so sure that I saw the same future as he did. I wanted something more, but wasn’t sure that marriage was what I wanted. This guy...

When I met Andrew (not his real name) for the first time I had a feeling it likely wasn’t going to work out. We had met online, so our first date was also our first meeting. For this reason, I wouldn’t have wanted him to pick me up—it’s not very romantic I guess, but safety is important! That being the case, he selected a spot for us to meet. Normally I would...

I was made for marriage and motherhood. I knew it when I was tiny, as little girls do. I was in love with my dad, a tall, handsome, navy doctor, and wanted to be my mom, who stayed at home and filled our lives with books, art, music, and enchantment. In my heart of hearts, I knew that this was the path for me, and I would live it sooner rather than later. Laura and...

On a date at Café Lalo, the famed coffee house from the movie You’ve Got Mail, David and I hatched a plan. When we got married we would celebrate two anniversaries—our wedding anniversary, and the anniversary of when we started dating. An early (and awkward) Central Park date “We’ll reenact it, every year!” I proclaimed excitedly, clearly under the influence...

In the Marine Corps I learned to sleep anywhere. I’ve slept in the Iraqi desert and in the Brazilian jungle. I’ve slept in holes and on sandbags, in planes and on rocking ships. If fact I consider myself an expert on sleep—or at least an expert at falling asleep—and that’s why it was so strange that I couldn’t sleep a wink the night before my wedding day. Adam...

I have been on and off birth control since I was 16 years old. I had a steady boyfriend at the time and thought that I loved him. I knew I was too young to be pregnant, but I didn’t think I was too young to have sex. Flickr/Ferran Jordà So one day I drove my old beat up Ford F-150 to Planned Parenthood by myself. I didn’t tell my parents, and I didn’t need...

Throughout the majority of my engagement to Adam, I rented a room in a house owned by a young married couple. While most people would view this situation as less than ideal, I’d argue that this up close and personal experience with a happy marriage was a great blessing for a soon-to-be bride. I witnessed this couple fight and forgive. I saw them work through the...

I’m heading into a new decade and saying goodbye to my twenties this month. Of course, this birthday marks another “first” since Dan died. I wish he were here to spoil me and tease me about how I’m “catching up” to him in age and how I’m the cutest thirty year old around. Even though our ideas of a perfect celebration were...

Sometimes I try to “fix” my husband. I know it’s not a good idea, but it’s so easy to fall into that trap. It goes something like this. First, something unrelated to my husband starts to annoy me. Maybe the trash smells. Maybe a kid is crying. Maybe I’m just tired. Second, I search out a scapegoat for the problem. Guess who’s an easy...

My fiancé and I got engaged two months ago. Like most engagements, it was a combination of joy, tears, and laughter. But unlike most brides, I knew exactly when and where I was going to get engaged, and since my fiancé and I had designed the ring together, I even knew what the ring looked like. Why did we choose to do it this way? Because it gave me time to mentally,...