My girlfriend dumped me back in 2010, it sucked at the time, but it turns out it was the kindest thing she could have done for me. Let me explain. Matt dipping his wife on their wedding day. Up to that year, I was always chasing girls. Seriously. Since 5th grade I always had a date on Valentine’s Day and that’s no exaggeration. I’m not necessarily proud of that either. Part of the thrill was that chasing girls was fun—you’re attracted to the person, you flirt, you’re awkward, you’re wondering if they like you...

It’s an odd experience, sitting across from your wife, trying to impress her with stories she already knows (which means she knows you’re exaggerating). Kara and I had been married for two years, and I was asking her about things I already knew, like where she grew up and what her hobbies were. Now married, we were having our second first date, and just like our very first first-date, it was a little awkward, but still a ton of fun. Just a few days earlier Kara and I were discussing our marriage and she mentioned missing the newness...

“Kara, remember how distraught you were when Adam forgot to say you looked beautiful on your first date after his deployment?” My college girlfriend reminded me as we were sitting talking about our relationships with our husbands and reminiscing about how far those relationships had come. I instantly defended myself, saying it wasn’t true. In my mind getting upset over something so trivial seemed like such a silly response. But as I sat there thinking about it, my stomach sank. The memory of me feeling hurt that he didn’t comment...

My romance with Dan began long after we met, so it didn’t begin with “love at first sight.” It began with a friendship. It began with Dan seeing something beyond that friendship and convincing me to see it, too. It began with a risk. Dan and I took a chance at love more than ten years after we met. The first time I laid eyes on Dan was in the fall of 1998. I was fourteen; Dan, eighteen – a generation between us in my adolescent mind. Dan had just played basketball with my older brother, his classmate, and was standing in my kitchen...

When you live nearly 1000 miles away from your relatives, it can be hard to keep up with the family traditions that you grew up with. Because of my husband’s up in the air military schedule, booking flights and planning family visits can be a challenge. Homemade pizza at my parent’s house after Christmas church service or summer days at the family cottage with my in-laws are just a couple of the countless family traditions that we seldom get a chance to enjoy these days. But in spite of this, we have had a wonderful opportunity...

“So, what if she’s pregnant?” Months ago, a 21-year-old man we’ll call “Michael” came to the pregnancy resource center where I work. Couples come here all the time for Flickr/Disgustipado a free pregnancy test to see if they’re pregnant and I, as a Men’s Mentor, often get to talk to the guys to prepare them for fatherhood. Michael was one of those guys who wasn’t sure if his girlfriend, “Katie”, a 19-year-old, was pregnant or not. We sat in my office when I asked him that question. “Well, I’m going to get another...

At 25, I thought I was ready to get more serious with my boyfriend, and made the big move out of my parent’s house and into a downtown apartment to be closer to him. This step was nerve-wracking, but I was also excited to become more independent, and take the next step in my relationship. Well, not even two months after the move, my boyfriend and I broke up. Deanna and her brother. It came at a time when I was working at a busy job, going to school part-time, and now adjusting to being completely on my own, night after night. For the...

Discomfort rippled through my body as the woman in front of me poked fun at her “idiot” husband. I could sense his embarrassment, which only increased my uneasiness. I didn’t even know this couple well, and yet I was made privy to some intimate workings of their relationship. From the outside looking in, it wasn’t a pretty picture. Kara’s “pride” at being by Adam’s side ( she spilled chocolate fondue on herself and Adam loved it…) Let’s face it, every relationship endures bumps along the way and...

When your spouse is sick and you live in a “here and now” kind of world, you start to see life in a new way. Cliché as it may sound, our “living in the moment” mentality helped us cope with our fear. It allowed us to find things to love about each other that we may never have seen had we let those precious moments slip away into the hustle and bustle of normal life. Hanna and Dan finding joy post-transplant. During the first few years after Dan’s diagnosis, things went smoothly – that is, he followed the treatment protocol...

Posted on Aug 19 2014 - 9:15am by David

At a café in Greenwich Village we sipped hot chocolate and talked about our hopes and dreams. We had been dating a little over a month now, and we were falling in love. There was an electricity between us as we chatted away. Amber and David cruising. Then, silence. We didn’t know each other well enough to be comfortable with silence, so we fiddled with our cups and looked down. It was awkward. And in that silence played John Mayer’s “Your Body is a Wonderland.” “Oh, I love this song!” Amber piped up. I’m guessing she said...