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How Do You Do Marriage When You Haven’t Seen A Good One Before?

…m. At first these differences scared me because in my mind and experience, differences caused arguments. Differences made it more difficult to understand each other. Differences lead to the dreaded D. Or so I thought. But as time went on, I learned that differences in relationships are not only normal, they actually can be a good thing. Like when I wanted a $200 pair of glasses, and he reminded me it wasn’t in our budget. Or when I tried to discip…

3 Things That Make Our Marriage Work (Despite Our Differences)

…agnostic. Despite the differences in our personalities and even the large differences in our foundational belief systems, our marriage is thriving. I think a big part of the strength of any relationship is how well the partners can navigate their differences. No two people are exactly alike, and therefore people will always disagree about some things. Romantic comedies often make finding love into the search for the right person. But marriage is…

I Believe in Love Because Only True Love Can Transcend Differences

…dren. We are from very different worlds and there is always the danger our differences could tear us apart . And if we leave love out of the equation, division is the certain result. But we choose love. I believe in love because only true love can transcend differences. Today, we are building a unique world of our own. It’s a little American, a little Salvadoran, a little coastal, and a little mountain. But the common denominator is love, and thro…

All Will Be Well: Our Differences Joined Us

…of “him” and “me” to create something special. Our differences joined us. Dan’s 30th birthday singing “Time of My Life.” Dan knew me. He knew my quirks and delicately teased me about them. One of my so-called quirks is my dislike for surprises. He was the definition of a hopeless romantic and surprises were essential to his plans for sweeping me off my feet. But when it came to special occasions, Dan knew…

Managing Personality Differences In Your Relationship

…er’s personality. We eventually came to understand personality trait differences and the true definitions of an introvert and extrovert. We learned that I, as an introvert, am refreshed by spending time alone and that he, an extrovert, is refreshed by spending time with groups of people. It doesn’t mean that I don’t enjoy being around friends; of course I do. And it doesn’t mean that he never enjoys being alone; that’…

Why I’m Thankful For Differences In Marriage

…In fact, I would say most of our disagreements are because of personality differences, which we have learned to manage. The saying that “opposites attract” might actually be true, and for a good reason. Darren and I have found that the differences that sometimes annoy us and cause us to argue are actually blessings in disguise, because together we are able to balance each other’s weaknesses. One very clear example of this is the appearance of our…

Learning to Value Differences Among Siblings

…he famous French trio, we have the most conflicting personalities. But our differences make us value each other more and have strengthened our friendship. We were all driven to succeed at whatever we tried, but none of us went about it in the same way. Tracy is the oldest and in no way fits the typical birth order personality for firstborns. She is the Porthos of the group—the comic relief, the carefree spirit, and idealist. Then there’s Amanda, o…

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“Excuse Me? You Ditched Me For What?”

…r and I am a feeler, and we meet in the middle while working through an issue. Of course, while we as couples get comfortable explaining our feelings and behaviors and asking for patience, we also need to stretch ourselves to accommodate each other. Differences can’t be used as a shield. They are just what they are – differences. When we learn to understand, respect, and even appreciate each other’s differences, we can find a little more peace in…

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One of the Biggest Questions You Should Ask When You’re Dating

…and acted that she knew could no longer go unacknowledged—especially their differences in faith. She realized these differences would largely affect a future marriage and how they parented their kids one day. So as much as it hurt her to break up with him, she understood that they may never be on the same page. Waiting for him to change wasn’t worth the risk of that never happening. This doesn’t mean you should go break up with your significant ot…

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Girls and Guys. Different. Crazy. Better Together.

…n general. We have a weird way of balancing each other out, and I like the differences. It spices everyday life up and makes it fun. Our differences can also help us to grow: we can better understand the good and bad things about ourselves. The things I do to annoy her, I know to take away. And the things I do that she likes, I know to build on and do it even better. And when I embrace the good things about her (like planning ahead), and at the sa…

3 Ways We Make Our All-American Marriage Work

…ddity and is willing to relearn the whereabouts of everything. Despite our differences, my husband and I show how much we care about each other by learning each other’s languages. A friend of mine told me early into my married life that kindness is the key to a successful marriage. Whatever gaps exist in your marriage– choose kindness. Put your spouse’s concerns ahead of your own. Celebrate your differences and learn to adapt to them….

The 5 Biggest Myths About Marriage I Used To Believe

…k a marriage. We are two different people so it is only natural that those differences will appear. But I have learned that Ben and I don’t have to agree on everything to be happy. Your differences can actually strengthen your marriage if you consider it a growth opportunity. You don’t have to agree with everything your spouse thinks, but valuable insight and relationship growth can come from hearing them out. Ask them questions and become genuine…

Signs a Relationship is Not Working

Missing the Warning Signs a Relationship is Not Working Out

…rent people, but I thought that our love was strong enough to overcome our differences. Turns out, it wasn’t. Weeks rolled on, and suddenly I heard another little voice. I couldn’t dismiss it this time. I asked my boyfriend if he would be willing to give up drinking around my family. It didn’t seem like a big deal. I didn’t expect him to never have a drink again, just to put it away around my relatives. My family has a history of serious problems…

Knowing Your Type Might Save You A Fight

…weaknesses in relationships. If you’re anything like Anthony and me, your differences might simultaneously be the things that you find most attractive and most frustrating about your partner. Knowing what aspects of your personalities might cause conflict will help you learn how to deal with those differences in a healthy way. If you identify these areas in advance, it can help from being blindsided by silly fights later on. People – and relation…

Choosing Love, But Not Necessarily Each Other’s Politics

…like I hope it will in the future. My husband and I don’t have significant differences when it comes to politics and religion. But w e are still two different people, from different backgrounds, coming together to make one life together—it’s inevitable we’ll have differences. Adam and I have had to work our way through our own disagreements about safety standards, extended family issues, parenting techniques, and more. But our love and respect for…

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Do Men Need Sex?

…throughout our relationship Kara and I have made sure to talk about these differences, and make sure that we know what each other needs. Kara knows I need physical intimacy, but she also knows that I don’t need sex. I like sex — I like it a lot — but I don’t need it because there are plenty of times where we just can’t have it. For example, Kara and I saved sex for marriage because we knew it would benefit our marriage. And within mar…

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Bonding with a Difficult Mother

…failures. That doesn’t mean that I have to accept everything she says and does, but it does mean that I can treat her with more compassion than I did when I was younger. Time, maturity, and our shared experience as moms have helped me to love my mother despite our differences. I am now free to love the parts of her I see and understand and the parts I do not. I can respond with compassion and forgiveness when the veil of her life is briefly lifte…

Relationship Red flags and Deal Breakers

Psych Corner: 5 Relationship Red Flags and Deal Breakers

…k for ways in which you are similar to your partner and ways in which your differences improve one another. That includes personality, lifestyle, and values. You don’t need to be a clone of one another to be a good fit but think about how your differences balance one another out. Figuring that out can take some time. That’s why it’s important to make sure that you aren’t getting hot and heavy too soon. Put the time in to really get to know one ano…

How To Get Along With Your Ex When You Have Kids Together

…different parenting styles and rules. I’ve learned that if I try to ignore differences the resentment builds and eventually erupts into an argument. I need to try talking about differences in a calm, non-accusing way and explain that I want to work together to create consistency for our child’s sake. 5.) Keep temper in check. Don’t go flying off the handle if they make me mad. Restrain myself and be positive that it will get worked out. If I…

How Can I Tell If He Loves Me

How Can I Tell If He Loves Me?

…f it wasn’t intended to. But over Memorial Day weekend I realized that our differences give us an opportunity to really show each other love, in a particular way. This realization began on a family hike in John Bryan State Park with my in-laws and my family of six. I’m not talking about camping gear and mountains, but a small and scenic national park easy enough for my four energetic children and I to explore. In those few hours of hiking, m…