My mom came to visit me when I was heavily pregnant.
She lives over ten hours away from me, so we don’t get that much time to see each other. My mom is always worried about us because we don’t have any family close by, so she stayed with us for a couple of weeks. This was the first time she really got a sense of what life was like for me with my husband.
She saw my husband completely take care of his nine-month pregnant wife and kids. He cooked, cleaned, played with the kids, and loved on me every chance he got.
One day, my mom said to me, “Ken is such a great guy!” This time she didn’t have worry in her face, she had relief and joy. I couldn’t help but express how “lucky I feel that he is my husband and father to my babies.”
She continued: “He is so sweet to you and I can’t believe how he can work such a hard and long day and still come home and plays with the kids and makes dinner.”
My mom said these things in a state of almost disbelief, as if a guy like my husband couldn’t exist. And I am honestly still shocked by my husband. I truly never thought a man like my husband existed. But here he is. Every day.
As I’ve written before, I haven’t had the best history with choosing guys. Every guy I ever dated before my husband put me down. They would tell me if they thought I didn’t look my best. If I answered a question wrong, they would call me “stupid.” I definitely never dated a man who would treat me to anything, especially if he wasn’t getting something out of it.
My husband had to teach me that I deserve to not only be loved, but I also deserve to be put first. He never belittles me or puts me down. He tells me I’m beautiful, even when I’m wearing my sweatpants. Instead of always catering to his needs, my husband taught me it was okay for me to want to be treated. Even though I’m far from perfect, he still looks at me like I am.
I never expected to ever be treated like this. I came scarily close to settling with guy who did not value me because I thought he was the best I could do. Now I thank God I waited for the right one, who wanted to commit to me for life.
He is the most selfless person I know. Even after working long days for weeks and weeks he still is just as selfless, hardworking, and sweet hearted. I realize great guys like this are not common, not only from my own experience, but also from people like my mom commenting on how lucky I am with my husband.
I don’t say any of this to brag or rub it in anyone’s face. I’m saying it to let you know, they DO exist!! A guy should make you feel absolutely loved and beautiful … don’t settle, like I almost did. They aren’t worth it. There are good guys out there, I promise.