Happy Birthday To My Ordinary Husband

Adam and kidsI was at the store the other day, looking for a birthday card for my husband. I had my 2 year old and 2 month old kids with me, so I knew I had a very limited amount of time.

I quickly looked through a few, but they were either overly sappy or just not “enough.” Just then the baby began to cry, so I snatched one of the latter ones and decided I’d write a nice letter inside, explaining how I really felt.

The baby miraculously quieted and so on a whim I grabbed one last card. As I opened the folds and read the words, I knew it was perfect:

It gets me every time.

Seeing you with the kids.

Watching you around the house.

Feeling your kiss on my cheek.


I’ve got a heart full

of these little everyday moments

that remind me

I’m married to a man

who’s anything but ordinary.


Only you

can make

being dependable

look sexy

and tenderness

feel like

incredible strength.

Adam1In the following days as I prepared for my husband’s birthday, I reflected on those words and on the type of man my husband is. I was reminded of what the British author G.K. Chesterton once wrote: “The most extraordinary thing in the world is an ordinary man and an ordinary woman and their ordinary children.” It’s those everyday, ordinary moments that make my life extraordinary, that make my love for my husband extraordinary. It’s my husband climbing into bed with our 2-year-old son when he wakes up crying in the middle of the night. It’s him taking the time to call me during the day, just to see how my day is going. It’s him buying me a puzzle for Christmas – not because he thinks I’ll like it, but because it’s something we can do together, and he knows there’s nothing I enjoy more than spending time with him.

Adam with Cea  But it’s not just these little things that make him and our relationship extraordinary. It’s the fact that in our society today, marriage, which has always seemed so ordinary, has actually become extraordinary. It’s extraordinary for a couple to make it, to be happily married for 40, 50, even 60 years. It’s extraordinary that we even took the plunge, committing to love in good times and bad, in sickness and in health. And it’s extraordinary that we want children and view then as a fruit of our love when society constantly tells us that we should put ourselves first, that children are for when we’re done having “fun,” done accumulating all the things money can buy.

Adam and kids bdayHappy birthday, darling. Thank you for transforming the ordinary into extraordinary. Thank you for heroically living out our everyday moments. May the next year bring us many, many more.

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  • Kara,
    Thank you for pointing out the GREAT blessing of being ordinary. “Ordinary” is healthy, orderly, peaceful, joyful and beautiful. I wish all could be ordinary–then again that may be a piece of Heaven.
    God bless!

  • Well said! I have always felt ordinary and yet when I consider my husband of 34 plus years and our still growing family, it is truly extraordinary and an everyday blessing! I love and treasure each and every one of you, each and every day. Thank you God for life and love 🙂

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