When I was about 15 years old I began self harming. I was a cutter. I did not do it for attention, but rather to release all the pain and suffering I had inside. I would hide my cuts because I didn’t want anyone to see them. I was ashamed but that is how I coped with my pain.
During that conversation, our youth pastor asked to see my wrist. I showed him the other one. “The other one,” he said knowingly. I showed him my scars. He didn’t judge me, but instead told me that I was loved, that God loved me, that he and his wife loved me. He asked me why I cut, and how he could help. I was bawling my eyes out. My family usually threatened to put me in a mental institution because they had no idea how to help. This man helped me by being there when I felt that no one else was, and when I felt that no one else cared.
It’s still a struggle every day to not start cutting again even after ten plus years of stopping. My kids are the reason I don’t now. It took a lot to stop but here are a few things that helped:
1) Deep breathing exercises, like counting along with my breaths, helped with dealing with my anxiety.
2) Keeping a rubber band on my wrist to snap when I felt the urge to cut helped me to resist cutting. Chewing gum also helped distract me from the urge to cut.
3) Staying outside and keeping myself occupied with walks and going to parks keeps me feeling happy and healthy.
4) Talking to someone about it my anxieties and feelings can help release them from my mind.
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