Eight years ago, I was returning home after a weekend in the Twin Cities when my phone rang. My heart skipped a beat when I saw it was Adam. We had been talking throughout his deployment in the Middle East, but he had recently returned. Now we finally had a chance to see one another.
“You know, I wish we would have had a chance to talk about this this weekend,” he said over the phone, “but I really want to pursue you.” My eyes went wide, and a huge smile spread across my face.
Those few words he spoke to me told me pages upon pages about his character. I’ve always looked back on that moment as one that established trust in our relationship. I was happy to firmly know he was interested in me but also surprised he was so forthright. There was something extremely attractive about a man who was confident in what he wanted.
We began dating, and as time went on, I realized that two of the greatest gifts Adam gave our relationship were his boldness and intentionality. I felt peace because I didn’t wonder if he was interested in me, or what his intentions were, or if he “just wanted to hang out.” Yet, there was also excitement. He said he wanted to pursue me?!??? There’s a thrill in being chased—that means he finds me desirable, he wants to woo me and he’ll try to impress me.
He may not have known at that moment that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me, but he knew he wanted to find out if he did. It takes a lot of courage to be so forthcoming because you are always risking rejection. He wasn’t messing around with his feelings. That made me confident that he wouldn’t mess around with my heart either.
We’re six-and-a-half years into marriage. Adam is still bold and intentional. He isn’t afraid to go against the grain to do what’s right for himself, our relationship, and our family. He challenges me each day but is also quick to admit his own failings. He knows who he is and where he wants to be. I’m so thankful he chose me to come along for the ride.