Desire for marriage remains high among young Americans today, but we’re still marrying later and less than our parents and grandparents. I hear it often from friends and family–“a good man is hard to find” or “a good woman is hard to find.” Yet, I seem to know lots of good men and women who just simply aren’t married yet!
I think one of the problems me and my peers are facing is not a problem of options for good spouses, but a struggle to know how to relate to the other person. Sure, we have lots of friends, we’ve gone on lots of dates, and oftentimes we think we’re good at relating to the person we’re dating. But are we really good at relating to the people we’re around, particularly our dates?
“I just haven’t found the right guy,” I told a friend of mine recently. “How do you know these guys aren’t the ‘right guy?'” he asked, “Do they say ‘I’m not the right guy?'” Of course they don’t…and my friend was quick to agree with me that I need to have more to talk about with a potential romantic partner than just our shared love of coffee or the weather. But how to do we learn about our dates when they seem more interested in learning about our bodies first, or seem more interested in talking about themselves than learning about the other person?
Dating has gotten more difficult for our generation, I think. A lot has changed in our world in the past 30 plus years, and especially in the realm of relationships and communication. And that’s why we’re excited to launch a new weekly feature at iBiL. We’re calling it, “I Believe in Love: Pro-Tip.” The goal of the feature is to give simple, practical tips for dating, relationships, and love.
We want your help with the feature, too! Do you have an idea for a post? Or do you have a question you’d like answered? Leave it in the comments or email us at firstname.lastname@example.org. We’d love to hear from you…after all, we’re in this together!