Learning to Trust, Learning to Love

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Maintaining relationships with other people is very hard for me because I struggle with trusting them. I’m scared to get attached only to get hurt later on and not be able to recover from the pain.

To this day, I can’t move on from my mom leaving me for another man. I remind myself that there are good people in my life. My grandma is one person I can trust with anything. She took me in and saved me from foster care. She never judged nor left my side despite all my difficulties growing up.

So what do I do? I push everyone away and then complain that I’m alone. I know a lot of people struggle with the same thing. I want to be able to trust the people in my life and feel the love I didn’t get when I was a child. And I know I have too certain things to rebuild trust in myself and others.

  1. Love and Respect Yourself If you don’t have a sense of your own self-worth, then it’s hard to improve or gain any healthy relationships. As I’ve written before, the only way to overcome the things we struggle with is to be strong and keep a positive attitude. If things don’t work out, just take each situation as a lesson and move on with your life. If things do, then you have another person to help you through all that life throws at you. 
  2. Don’t give up I’m learning to take things one day at a time and never give up on yourself or finding good people to share your life with. I try open up and trust people by to creating a small friendship, taking things slow to see how well it goes. It’s very hard and I struggle a lot with it still. But I don’t lose hope because working to have good people in my life is worth it.
  3. Don’t be afraid to love Trusting others is still hard because of my past experiences, but I’m working to address my fears. I know opening myself up to the people I love is the only way I can have the healthy relationships I want with family, friends or significant others.

One of my favorite motivational quotes is “Be strong but not rude be kind but not weak, be bold but not a bully, be humble but not timid, be proud but not arrogant.” That’s my goal. I know if I can reach that then I can let people in and life will feel a lot easier.

Ashlyn

My name is Ashlyn. I am 19 years old and live in Columbus, Ohio. I'm a part of the IBIL community to give inspiration for someone who was in my place to do better and reassure them that in the end everything will be okay.
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