Maintaining relationships with other people is very hard for me because I struggle with trusting them. I’m scared to get attached only to get hurt later on and not be able to recover from the pain.
To this day, I can’t move on from my mom leaving me for another man. I remind myself that there are good people in my life. My grandma is one person I can trust with anything. She took me in and saved me from foster care. She never judged nor left my side despite all my difficulties growing up.
So what do I do? I push everyone away and then complain that I’m alone. I know a lot of people struggle with the same thing. I want to be able to trust the people in my life and feel the love I didn’t get when I was a child. And I know I have too certain things to rebuild trust in myself and others.
- Love and Respect Yourself If you don’t have a sense of your own self-worth, then it’s hard to improve or gain any healthy relationships. As I’ve written before, the only way to overcome the things we struggle with is to be strong and keep a positive attitude. If things don’t work out, just take each situation as a lesson and move on with your life. If things do, then you have another person to help you through all that life throws at you.
- Don’t give up I’m learning to take things one day at a time and never give up on yourself or finding good people to share your life with. I try open up and trust people by to creating a small friendship, taking things slow to see how well it goes. It’s very hard and I struggle a lot with it still. But I don’t lose hope because working to have good people in my life is worth it.
- Don’t be afraid to love Trusting others is still hard because of my past experiences, but I’m working to address my fears. I know opening myself up to the people I love is the only way I can have the healthy relationships I want with family, friends or significant others.
One of my favorite motivational quotes is “Be strong but not rude be kind but not weak, be bold but not a bully, be humble but not timid, be proud but not arrogant.” That’s my goal. I know if I can reach that then I can let people in and life will feel a lot easier.