Life’s Adventures With Companionship

KARA

“I believe in love because life’s adventures are better shared with a companion.”

Looking back on my childhood and teenage years, some of the most endearing and timeless books I read were the Little House on the Prairie and Anne of Green Gables series. Over and over again I’d wistfully read of Almanzo braving the blustery and dangerous prairie winters to court Laura and of Gilbert’s self-sacrificing attempts to win Anne’s heart.

While these love stories definitely had romance, they also included adventure: two couples setting out together to make a life of their own, a life that was riddled with illness, financial hardship, sometimes death and all the little quarrels that come with the first few years of marriage. Yet, their love was still exhilarating, joyful and peaceful. I remember hoping that someday I’d find my own Gilbert Blythe or Manly Wilder, someone who I’d also set off on adventure with.

Not long after I met my husband, Adam, I learned that one of his favorite authors was the British writer G. K. Chesterton. I was familiar with Chesterton, but as I began to learn more about him I came across a quote of his on marriage: “Marriage is an adventure, like going to war.” At first I thought it was a humorous line in that there are constant squabbles between man and wife as they try to figure out how to live harmoniously. But the more I thought about it, the more I realized in many ways it was the type of love I was searching for.

Now in no way do I glorify war, but I’m sure what Chesterton was trying to get at (especially in his time, he died in 1936) is that love and marriage take bravery, self-sacrifice, commitment and honor. There are highs and lows, joys and sorrows. And there is peace when you strive to live life and love virtuously, fighting for the good of the other and for the sake of your love. These are the requirements of the most epic adventures we could ever embark on.

This is the type of love I want. I want a heroic love, a love that is costly, but also triumphant. I want a love that is refined in the fire of everyday challenges so that it may become purer and truer. I want a love that is joyful and peaceful. I want an adventurous love story, not a mediocre one. And I want to love and be loved by someone who wants the same type of love story. What fun is an adventure when you’re alone? Life’s adventures are meant to be shared. I want someone who will l climb with me to the highest mountain tops, but also descend into the deepest valleys if need be. I want a love that is challenging, but also rewarding. I want my marriage to be the greatest, most epic adventure of my life.

Thankfully, Adam feels the same way, and the last five years have definitely been more adventuresome than I could have imagined: three children, new job opportunities, completing a basement renovation, new friends, memorable trips, and the hard days and good days. It hasn’t always been easy and we’ve each had our moments of failure, but the joy has far outweighed our trials. As we continue to walk hand-in-hand together through life, I hope our love only becomes deeper and purer. I can’t wait to see what adventures await us in the years to come.

“I believe in love because life’s adventures are better shared with a companion.”

 

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