It’s weird to think that not too long ago I was getting a full night’s rest, going to the bathroom by myself, and spending more than two minutes alone. But peace and quiet are overrated anyway, right?
As the two of you grow, I want you to know that marrying your father is the best decision I have ever made. Without him you wouldn’t be here, and I wouldn’t be half the woman that I am today.
By today’s standards your dad and I were foolish. We dated for nine months before becoming engaged at ages 23 and 24, and then got married a year later. We didn’t even live in the same city until three months before we were married. But none of that mattered to us. We knew we were committed “for better or for worse” and deeply in love. After three months of dating your father told me he wanted to marry me, and during our engagement I used to tease him that he should have talked me into marrying him sooner! The wait seemed unbearable at times!
We also knew we wanted to have kids right away. We didn’t feel the need to wait a year “to get to know each other” as they say. What better way to get to know each other than to see one another as a mother and father? Eight months into our marriage we conceived you, Gabriel, and then almost two years later came Cecilia. Not a day goes by that we don’t marvel at what a blessing you’ve been in our lives.
Don’t get me wrong, there are nights where we wish we could just crawl into bed and wake up the next morning undisturbed. Yes, there are times we wish we could spontaneously jump in the car and go on a road trip. Yes, there are moments we wish we didn’t have to clean up your messes. But at the end of the day, it’s always worth it.
Here’s where I want you to listen closely. Normally I’m all about safety and erring on the side of caution (ask your father, it drives him bonkers), but there may come a day where you’ll need to be foolish, too. If you find someone you want to spend the rest of your life with, go against the crowd: Get married. Then have kids. Don’t wait for the house with the picket fence or the perfect job or whatever other detail to fall into place. There’s never a good time to get married or have a baby—there will always be something.
Sure, there may be sacrifices in your life such as that nice vacation or new furniture set that you have to skip because it’s not in the budget, or maybe you’ll have to work two jobs for a while. But the joy that comes from marriage and a family far outweighs any passing trial. Some of the greatest love stories are born from hardships like these.
Now, I wouldn’t be your mother if I didn’t clarify and say, don’t be foolish in your choice of a spouse. But don’t be afraid to give your life away to someone else, to love until it hurts. Don’t be afraid to bring children into this world. I know it can seem like an ugly place at times, but your father and I hope that the two of you will make it a better place. We have already seen that you do.
Thank you for the privilege of being your mother. I couldn’t ask for a better son or daughter. I’m excited to see where the adventure of life takes us in the future.