Looking around a barbecue this past weekend, I had one of those “single person” moments. Surrounded by couples finishing each other’s sentences, babies, stories of recent engagements, vacations, and the dreaded in-law visits, I felt like I was missing something, or really, someone.
I left that BBQ feeling a little down. To be honest, it kind of made me want to never go to another BBQ again. Now, don’t get me wrong. I love babies, BBQ’s, and beer. I was even more than happy to talk with a married couple about house training their new puppy for twenty minutes. It wasn’t the lack of flip cup, screaming, or rowdiness that I missed from my younger years.
The truth is, I was feeling down because I actually have a great desire in the depths of my heart to share this mundane, ordinary experience with someone else.
As I count down to 30 (we’re talking days, not years here unfortunately), I know I have a tremendous number of blessings in my life. But, like many people who have yet to find someone, I have these moments where I’m like, “Whoa! Wait a second here. I want that.” And then that other voice that whispers, “I’ll find that, right? Right?”
In case my name (Joe) didn’t give it away, I am a man, and I’m here to tell you that, as unbelievable as it may seem, men actually have those thoughts about settling down too. We’re not all looking to head out to the bar and pick up girls for the night, waiting until we have millions saved up, and then looking for someone ten years younger. There are some, I’ll go out on a limb and say many, men who want to find someone special to spend the rest of their lives with.
So I guess what I’m trying to say is, next time you’re thinking of not going to your friend’s BBQ because you don’t want to be the only single person there give it a chance, there might be someone there who wants the same things as you.