Our Marriage Deepened Our Relationship


I probably never wouldn’t have met my future husband Ken if it wasn’t for my college roommate’s brother, John, who made not-so-subtle attempts to set us up.

John kept asking me questions to see if the “new kid” on campus and I would be a good match for one another. He would ask me  “Do you like southern accents?” “How do you feel about the name ‘Ken’?” John would come over to hang out with me and my roommate. He would often just happen to show up with his friend Ken.

I soon realized I had a class with the new kid. He was so handsome. His kindness and deep faith made him all the more attractive to me. I developed a big crush on him, even though we hadn’t had a chance to really talk yet. After a few casual conversations, he asked me out.

I will never forget my first date with my now-husband. We shared our pasts and where we came from. I remember looking at him while he stumbled over his words as he tried to  share his stories about his rough childhood with me. I started feeling myself fall in love with an incredible man who had overcome so much. From then on we were inseparable.

We agreed early on that we did not just want to date for fun. We felt bound for marriage. We were best friends from the very start, so I knew very early on that he was the man I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. Three years and two babies later, we are still absolutely best friends. We’re raising our family as a team, growing stronger in our relationship and our faith as the years go on. 

We’ve found that marriage is so different from dating. Marriage shows everyone else just how much we love each other and the level of commitment we have for one another. We are committed to each other until “death do us part,” so we don’t have to spend time planning for what we’ll need to do if our relationship doesn’t work out. Instead, we can focus our energy on deepening our bond and preparing for our family’s future since we know we are going to be together forever. Even though things aren’t always easy, these past few years being married to Ken have been the best years of my life, and I hope to continue growing in love together.



grew up in Michigan but calls Pennsylvania home. She videoblogs about her life as a stay-at-home mom at The Lemon Tree (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCIYrkk3L5lGZH6ys67iURoA). She is happily married to her college sweetheart, who is also her rock. She believes in love because it found her even when she felt undeserving.
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