The Old-Fashioned Way Of Dating Still Works


If you look at dating sixty years ago and dating now, you would obviously see a huge difference.

When I think of dating the old-fashioned way, I think of a man asking a woman, as well as her mother and father, if he could take her out on a date. Then they would do something innocent, like watch a movie or grab a burger and a pop. And they would be back home at the exact minute their parents had wanted them home.

With old-fashioned dating, there is no intention of having sex right away, or seeing if you could get them to send you a nude photo on their phone. It’s just innocent bonding and companionship between two people.

I think of treating the opposite sex with respect. I think of a man opening a car door for a woman, or holding a door open at the store so that the woman and children can go in first. I think about treating people as people, and not as objects.

I think of two people going out on a date and trying to get to know each other to see if it’ll be anything long term. And as I see it, there is something good about that: because I believe the point in dating is finding that one person you can spend the rest of your life with and call your husband or your wife. It shouldn’t be done as a hobby or something to pass time. I’m not saying that you’re going to be able to marry the first person you date, or even the second. But there should be a point to dating beyond, “This is fun for the moment, so let’s get together.”

I don’t think we have to do everything the exact same way today, but I think if we dated with the same kind of morals and intentions as those who dated the old-fashioned way, I think we’d find it easier to find lasting love. I mean, just think about the way that a lot of dating is done today.

Nowadays, I’ve noticed that most of the time men and women go on a date with no intention of trying to find the person they want to spend the rest of their life with. A lot of times, I think it’s more a way of hooking up. And you rarely ever see a man pull out a chair for a woman, but we do hear many vulgar terms about women. Nowadays, I think it’s easy to treat people as objects and not people. In small but important ways, these actions show a lack of respect, and I think a lot of what ruins relationships today is a lack of mutual respect.

I also think that a lack of mutual respect can slowly lead to a lack of loyalty in a relationship—and I think loyalty is a huge issue nowadays. It seems like it’s become a fad to cheat on your significant other. But in a committed relationship there are only two people, and they stay true and loyal to each other no matter what.

So, yes, I still believe that men should be polite to women. I believe that men should still open doors, pull out chairs, and treat a woman as they would want to be treated. I believe that men should ask women out on actual dates, and get to know the person as a person, not just look to have sex. And if they ever get married, I believe that couples should always love and be loyal to each other.

To me, that just sounds a lot better than the way dating is done a lot of times today.

So if you are in a committed relationship right now, or married, or even thinking about getting in a relationship, try doing things the old-fashioned way: be polite and treat your significant other with the utmost respect and dignity. You might just be surprised at how relevant and helpful the old-fashioned way really is.


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