“You have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince charming,” I commented on my sister’s Facebook status a few weeks ago. But now I don’t think that this is true. I’ve kissed a lot of frogs, and I’m starting to think I’d be better off if I had not.
In most of my relationships things have gotten physical pretty quickly. Almost every time it has landed me in a bad relationship. Each time, I wish I’d taken things slower.
Having sex within the first month of dating usually means less happiness, stability, and communication in relationships—that’s what research shows, and that’s pretty much been my experience. I have written before about dating and not having sex, but, to be honest, I haven’t lived up to my standards.
To find the love that I crave so badly I need to have more respect for myself. I don’t need to dress provocatively or try to act like someone I’m not to attract a man. I want a man who loves me for me, not what he thinks I can offer him.
That’s why I want to wait. I want to get to really know a guy before I just jump into bed with him. I want to know his dreams and goals, his values and beliefs. I want to know what drives him in life and what is most important to him. I don’t want to waste my time with anymore frogs. I do believe true love exists and I will find it.