“Why Do Guys Not Like Me?” A Letter To The Girl Waiting For Love


If you were able to write a letter to send back to your younger self, what would you say?

I recently celebrated a birthday, and while I am definitely not a fountain of wisdom, there are some things that I have learned that have made me a wiser, better person. Here is my advice to my teenage self:


Dear Mary,

I know there were so many times you wondered how you could go on after something happened that was seemingly the end of the world.

I know you already have encountered rejection and heartbreak. Yes, your heart has a few more scars on it, but you have become a stronger, more loving person for it. And you will find people who will love you just as much as you love them.

First: friends. You worry that you don’t fit in. You can’t be someone other than you areplease just try to be yourself. Pursue your interests and your dreams, and the friends will follow. You will find an amazing group of people who think you are great just the way you are.

Second: I know you worry about romance. I know it seems some classmates have new boyfriends and girlfriends every week, yet no one has ever asked you out on so much as one date.

You are a beautiful, bright, and kind-hearted person, and the right one is out there for you. You are going to be blown away by this man—he’ll treat you like his princess (and he’ll make you wear a tiara on your wedding day! Okay, you wanted to wear it too.) 

He dances and writes silly songs and cracks jokes when the times are good, and he holds you tightly close to him when things are bad. You were born to love this man, and he was born to love you. 

Sure, you are both going to make each other mad from time to time, and one or both of you will make mistakes along the way. But it will all be okay. The love between you two will be enough to overcome anything that comes your way.

Well, I think that is about all for now. Stay true to who you are. I will see you in the mirror in the years to come. 





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